I gave up the news completely for sixty days in 2025 and the thing nobody tells you is that you don’t feel better — you feel like a person who has walked out of a building that was on fire and is now standing in the parking lot wondering if you’re allowed to just go home

• Tension: Stepping away from news creates an unexpected void that feels more disorienting than peaceful.
• Noise: The constant stream of breaking news drowns out our ability to recognize our own thoughts.
• Direct Message: True mental clarity requires sitting with uncomfortable silence before finding genuine peace.

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I’ll confess something that might sound ridiculous: after sixty days without news, I found myself googling “is it normal to feel worse after a digital detox?” at 2 AM while my husband Richard slept peacefully beside me.

The experiment started simply enough. On January 1st, 2023, exhausted from years of doom-scrolling and breaking news alerts, I decided to quit cold turkey. No news apps, no morning shows, no NPR during my daily walks with Biscuit. Nothing.

What I expected was relief. What I got was something entirely different.

The first week felt like phantom limb syndrome

You know that feeling when you reach for your phone in your pocket, only to realize you left it at home? That’s what the first week felt like, except constantly.

My morning routine had revolved around news for so long that I didn’t know what to do with myself. I’d wake naturally at 6:30 AM (one of retirement’s genuine luxuries), make coffee, and then… nothing. The muscle memory of reaching for my phone or turning on the TV was so strong that I’d catch myself mid-motion, hand extended toward nothing.

Richard, who’d retired two years before me and had already figured out his rhythms, watched me pace around the kitchen like a caged animal. “Read a book,” he suggested. But reading felt wrong somehow. Too quiet. Too slow.

During walks with Biscuit, the silence was deafening. I’d trained myself to consume information constantly, and without that stream of voices in my ears, I felt untethered. Like I was floating through my neighborhood without purpose or connection to the larger world.

The social awkwardness nobody warns you about

Here’s what the self-help articles don’t tell you: quitting news makes you weird at dinner parties.

Three weeks into my experiment, we attended a neighbor’s birthday gathering. The conversation naturally drifted to current events, as it always does. Everyone had opinions about things I knew nothing about. A crisis somewhere. A scandal. A breakthrough.

I sat there, wine glass in hand, with absolutely nothing to contribute. When someone asked my thoughts directly, I had to admit I hadn’t heard about it. The looks ranged from confusion to something close to judgment. Was I irresponsible? Privileged? Out of touch?

One woman actually said, “Must be nice to just tune everything out.”

The sting of that comment stayed with me for days. Was opting out a form of privilege? After 34 years in education, working with kids facing real challenges, was I now just another retiree hiding from reality?

The unexpected grief of disconnection

By week four, something shifted. The frantic need to check news had faded, but in its place came something I hadn’t anticipated: grief.

Not grief for the news itself, but for the illusion of control it had given me. Following every development, every update, every expert opinion had made me feel like I was doing something. Like staying informed was a form of participation, even activism.

Without that constant input, I had to face an uncomfortable truth: most of my news consumption had been anxiety masquerading as engagement. I wasn’t changing anything by reading article after article. I was just feeding a worry machine that never stopped churning.

My mother used to say, “Everyone has a story. Your job is to help them tell it.” But whose stories was I really hearing through the news? The same narratives, recycled and sensationalized, creating noise rather than understanding.

Finding signal in the silence

Around day forty, something interesting happened. The panic subsided, and I started noticing things I’d been missing.

The elderly man three houses down who walked his ancient beagle every morning at exactly 7:15. The way the light hit our kitchen table at 3 PM. The actual conversations I was having with Richard, no longer interrupted by news alerts or the compulsion to share the latest outrage.

I mentioned in a previous post on DMNews how retirement forces you to redefine productivity. This news fast was teaching me something similar about engagement. Real engagement wasn’t about consuming every piece of information available. It was about being present for what was actually happening in my life.

Susan David’s research on emotional agility talks about the importance of creating space between stimulus and response. That’s essentially what this news diet had done, though not in the way I expected. It hadn’t made me calmer. It had made me more aware of how addicted I’d become to the adrenaline of constant crisis.

The parking lot moment

Day sixty arrived on a Thursday. I could have immediately dove back into the news, but I didn’t. Instead, I took Biscuit for our usual walk, came home, made breakfast, and sat with the strange new reality I’d created.

This is the part nobody tells you about quitting news: you don’t suddenly become enlightened. You don’t transform into some zen master who’s above worldly concerns. You just become a person standing in a different kind of silence, trying to figure out what actually matters.

The building that was on fire? It’s still burning. Walking away doesn’t put out the flames. But it does let you realize that not every fire requires your attention, and watching them burn from your phone doesn’t make you a firefighter.

I’ve started reading news again, but differently. Once a week, I check in with a few trusted sources. I read long-form journalism instead of breaking news. I’ve stopped pretending that my anxiety counts as civic engagement.

The truth is, those sixty days didn’t make me feel better in the way I expected. They made me feel more honest about what I can and cannot control, about what deserves my energy and what’s just noise dressed up as necessity.

What comes after the experiment

Three months later, I’m still processing what those sixty days taught me. The world didn’t end because I stopped watching it. My relationships didn’t suffer because I couldn’t discuss the latest headlines. If anything, they deepened because I was actually present for them.

But I’m not advocating for everyone to quit news entirely. What I am suggesting is that we examine our relationship with information consumption more honestly. Are we staying informed, or are we addicted to the chaos? Are we engaging with the world, or just consuming its disasters?

The parking lot metaphor still resonates. When you leave a burning building, standing in the parking lot feels surreal. You’re safe, but you’re also disconnected from the urgency that defined your recent existence. The question isn’t whether you’re allowed to go home. The question is whether you can build a new relationship with the fire, one that doesn’t require you to live inside it.

So here’s my question for you: What would happen if you stepped away from your primary source of anxiety for sixty days? Not forever, just long enough to remember what your mind sounds like without the constant noise.

What might you discover in that silence?

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