Despite knowing the negative effects of toxic relationships, many young women are attracted to them. The question remains, why? The answer isn’t simple. In the first place, it requires us to look at how toxic relationships are portrayed in the media.
Toxic Relationships and the Media
Unhealthy relationships are all over the media we consume, especially in movies and TV shows. There are the obvious examples, like Kelly and Ryan from The Office or Harley Quinn and The Joker from Suicide Squad, but there are plenty of less obvious examples in couples we love to root for.
As we get older, we realize that couples like Chuck and Blair from Gossip Girl or Edward and Bella from Twilight are pretty unhealthy, but we all loved them as teenagers. Teen brains are still developing, and watching these relationships without knowing how unhealthy they are can be damaging to our perceptions of romantic relationships. Even some of the most beloved relationships in pop-culture like Ross and Rachel from Friends have toxic tendencies. Seeing these behaviors so often normalizes them, making it harder for us to recognize unhealthy relationships.
Health Risks of Toxic Relationships
It’s no surprise that toxic relationships can lead to mental health problems like depression and anxiety, but there are physical health risks as well. Sherrie Bourg Carter Psy.D, says, “In a long-term study that followed more than 10,000 subjects for an average of 12.2 years, researchers discovered that subjects in negative relationships were at a greater risk for developing heart problems, including a fatal cardiac event, than counterparts whose close relationships were not negative.”
The data may be scary, but it goes to show that investing in healthy relationships is just as important for your physical health as your mental health.
Why Are Young Women Attracted to Toxic Relationships?
If toxic relationships are so harmful to our mental and physical health, why are young women so attracted to them? There are multiple explanations, but two reasons are the belief that women can change toxic men if they love them enough and that these kinds of relationships are addictive.
Women who see the best in people can fall into the “I can fix him” trap, which draws them into toxic relationships. Columnist and breakup coach Chelsea Leigh Trescott says, “For someone who suffers from rescuer syndrome or savior complex, nothing engages their heart more than a person who is toxic and could use some…help.”
Think about it. We’ve all had that one friend (or have been that friend, guilty as charged) who sees a guy she’s way too good for but is determined to change or “fix” him. Although it can make an entertaining romantic comedy, that’s not what love is about. It’s also not what healthy relationships are about. Looking at someone and wanting to change them isn’t love. Healthy relationships are about bringing out the best in each other, but they’re also about loving someone despite their flaws.
Two reasons are the belief that women can change toxic men if they love them enough and that these kinds of relationships are addictive.
Additionally, toxic relationships can be addicting, as relationship coach Cherlyn Chong says, “We get so addicted, in fact, that we become willing to sacrifice an entire lifetime for five minutes of exhilaration. Dr. Helen Fisher, a leading behavioral expert, calls this the ‘frustration-attraction’ phenomenon, where the unpredictability heightens those feelings of romantic love instead of hindering them.”
Toxic men tend to reward women for what they deem as “good behavior” with the affection the woman craves, filling her brain with dopamine (a neurotransmitter that releases feel-good hormones). She often becomes addicted to the rush of dopamine (similar to a drug addiction) and crashes when he returns to toxic behavior, only to get another “high” the next time her “good behavior” is rewarded with his affection.
This, unfortunately, turns toxic relationships into a habit. Luckily, it’s a breakable habit.
Breaking the Habit
The habit of toxic relationships is usually difficult to break because the brain of the victim often becomes desensitized by and to toxic behavior. Shahida Arabi, author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse, writes, “Our brains can become masochists, seeking the very people that hurt them. They become so accustomed to good behavior from nice guys that they stop releasing as much dopamine. That’s why even in a healthy relationship, we can become so “used to” the safety and security of a gentle partner that we find him or her less exciting over time.”
The best way to break the habit of being in toxic relationships is by developing a healthy relationship with yourself. It’s important that you come to know your own dignity and worth. Get to know yourself and be able to set boundaries. Take time to take care of yourself, even if it’s something simple like meditating every night or doing a weekly face mask. If you love yourself and are confident, you are more likely to attract good men who don’t have toxic tendencies.
It’s important that you come to know your own dignity and worth. Get to know yourself and be able to set boundaries.
It’s also important to know the signs of a toxic relationship and to guard your heart to keep yourself from ending up in one. The traits of a toxic relationship include “abuse of power and control, demandingness, selfishness, insecurity, self-centeredness, criticism, negativity, dishonesty, distrust, demeaning comments and attitudes, and jealousy.” Most toxic relationships start blissfully, making it more difficult to leave when things get rough because you hold on to what used to be.
It’s no secret that toxic relationships have been normalized in our culture, turning them into a habit that many young women find difficult to break. Focusing on loving yourself and developing good relationship habits is hard work, but it’s worth it in the end to have a healthy relationship.
With the support of her fiancé Chuck Pankow, 47, she will be posting videos as well as hoping to obtain a license to become an exotic dancer. Despite performing alone, Mikaela’s new career choice raises plenty of questions about the emotional harm sex work has on young women.
What Her Parents Think
Mikaela’s parents have yet to make a public statement about her decision to pursue a career in sex work. In her interview with The U.S. Sun, she claims that they were “intrigued” and “not upset” when she told them of her career change via FaceTime. She says producing solo-porn videos makes her happy, and elaborated, “I got really tired of not being able to capitalize on my body, and frankly, I got really tired of being told to hate my body. And I also just got tired of working day to day in a way that wasn’t satisfying my soul. I feel like doing this kind of work, I’m able to ‘satisfy’ other people, but that feels good because it’s not in a way that makes me feel violated.”
I feel like doing this kind of work, I’m able to ‘satisfy’ other people, but that feels good because it’s not in a way that makes me feel violated.
As a child, Mikaela experienced trauma, including being “groomed by predators.” She was sent to a boarding school as a teen to help sort out her problems, but that only exacerbated her issues. She has relied on alcohol to deal with her problems in the past, but considers pornography to be a healthier way to cope.
Porn and Mental Health
Mikaela’s childhood trauma led to more mental health issues outside of alcoholism, including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and borderline personality disorder. She claims that her new career choice will be empowering and help her mental health, though the data says otherwise.
The porn industry has seen a rise in deaths over the past few years, and they are all attributed to suicides or overdoses. According to a 2012 study, “porn stars did not come from a background of sexual abuse and, in fact, had higher esteem than the normal population.” The suicide rate correlates with social isolation and the short shelf life of a porn actress.
If young women with perfect records of mental health go into the porn industry and eventually commit suicide, the risk for someone with a history of mental health problems must be astronomical. One could argue that Mikaela could face fewer risks in the industry since she will be performing solo and has the support of her family and fiancé, but the rate of premature deaths amongst porn stars should not be taken with a grain of salt.
If young women with perfect records of mental health go into the porn industry and eventually commit suicide, the risk for someone with a history of mental health problems must be astronomical.
You probably asked the same thing I did when I heard this story: why? Why are her parents seemingly okay with her career change? Why did she decide to do this? And most importantly, why does she see this as such an empowering decision? To say that pornography has been normalized is an understatement. It’s everywhere, and as a society, we’ve become desensitized to its exploitation and violence. Porn used to be one of the greatest taboos, and now it’s just a part of everyday life. It’s a sad culture that ignores all of the negative aspects that porn has on society overall.
Mikaela Spielberg’s story is heartbreaking and shocking, but it’s not a unique story. With the normalization of pornography in our culture, more young women are turning to porn as a career. It’s a sad fact of life, but we need to educate others on the dangers of sex work to spread awareness.
When men do things like open the door for a woman or offer to pay the bill at dinner, women like it. They like it — this study found — even if, intellectually, they believe those behaviors are sexist. Pelin Gul, a social psychologist who worked on the study, said that women are aware that these kinds of behaviors “may be patronizing and undermining” but they “still found these men more attractive.”
This notion that chivalry is sexist — because it supposedly promotes the idea that women are less competent than men has become very popular in the world of modern feminism. So popular that lots of men are frightened to even do things like help a woman on with her coat, or offer to walk her home. “The broader collateral damage,” writes Martin Daubney in an article for Britain’s ‘The Telegraph,’ “is that men are not as nice towards women as they were.” And, as the Iowa State study showed, women don’t actually want that.
The broader collateral damage is that men are not as nice towards women as they were.
But what if there was a different way of looking at this all together? What if women’s attraction to chivalry wasn’t some strange anomaly that went against their better instincts? What if chivalrous men are actually more supportive of women then non-chivalrous men? What if we’ve got this whole chivalry thing totally and completely wrong?
Men and women are different
For all the modern feminist nonsense about gender being a social construct, everyone — including modern feminists — knows that men and women are different. Brain science shows it, studies on children’s toy preference shows it, and the feeling a woman has when a man comes up behind her on a dark street shows it too.
Men are physically more powerful than women. They’re more prone to aggression. They’re quicker to take action. They’re more likely to take risks. They have a higher sex drive. The list goes on. None of these things is negative in and of itself, but all of them have the potential to harm us, women. Were he so inclined, the average man could easily overpower and harm the average woman. No question. Which means that men who don’t want to hurt us — in other words, most men — need a way of showing us that we’re safe with them.
Men who don’t want to hurt us — in other words, most men — need a way of showing us that we’re safe with them.
Chivalry signals that men won’t hurt us
Chivalry is a way for men to show women that they won’t be using their superior strength, aggression, sex drive, etc. against us. Men know that women are capable of opening doors. They know we can put on our coats, and pay for things, and walk places. There probably isn’t a single man alive today who thinks that doors are too heavy for us, and coats just too darn tricky. Men aren’t doing these things because they think we’re so weak and incompetent that we literally can’t do them ourselves. They’re doing them to show us the kind of men they are.
When a man opens the door for us or holds out our coat so we can slip our arms inside, he’s showing us that he’ll be gentle with us. When he offers to walk us home, or walks on the street side of the sidewalk, he’s showing us that he’ll use his superior strength to protect us, not harm us. When he offers to pay for dinner, or brings us gifts out of the blue, he’s showing us that we are valuable to him and worth slowing down for.
When he offers to pay for dinner, or brings us gifts out of the blue, he’s showing us that we are valuable to him and worth slowing down for.
Chivalry is pro-women
If you meet a man who literally thinks you don’t know how to open a door, or couldn’t possibly ever have enough money to pay for one dinner, or can’t figure out how to get your arms into your own coat while holding it yourself, he’s not chivalrous, he’s an idiot. Chivalrous men are using these actions as a way to signal to you that they respect you. Sure, there are other ways to signal respect, but these specific things are perfectly calibrated to convey that the masculine things that could potentially be dangerous, won’t be.
If you meet a man who literally thinks you don’t know how to open a door, or couldn’t possibly ever have enough money to pay for one dinner, he’s not chivalrous, he’s an idiot.
Women — even feminists who think chivalry is sexist — find chivalrous behavior attractive. It’s the perfect combination of gentleness and masculinity. Opening doors and pulling out chairs display masculine traits — like strength and protectiveness — but they do it with gentleness and care. Chivalry doesn’t strip men of their masculinity; it simply assures women that their masculinity will be used in service of protecting women, rather than hurting them. And that’s attractive. Chivalry’s not dead. Let’s keep it that way.
Chivalry doesn’t strip men of their masculinity; it simply assures women that their masculinity will be used in service of protecting women, rather than hurting them.
Let’s face it; the average girl has a job, bills to pay, a pet or a child to care for and a to-do list a mile long. Finding the time to exercise and eat healthy regularly seems impossible! But what if it wasn’t? A few healthy habits put in place can set you up for success in your quest for a healthy and fit body.
Prepare or Prepare To Fail
Prepare your food and drinks in advance. You don’t need to hardcore “meal-prep” to set up your week to include healthy meals, but a little preparation goes a long way. Cook up some protein, chop fruits and veggies, and portion out food in containers. Find a cute lunchbox and plastic containers to fill up before you head out to work or school. Having your food on hand will stop you from eating take-out, skipping meals, or getting off track on your commitment to healthy eating. An hour or two a week to do a little preparation can save you time (and money!) when you’re on the go.
Having your food on hand will stop you from eating take-out, skipping meals, or getting off track on your commitment to healthy eating.
If you’re like me, you’re grabbing an iced coffee before you even think about water. But drinking the right amount of water daily for your body can change how you feel, fight bloat, curb cravings, hydrate skin and boost your energy. Most athletes or fitness gurus aim for one gallon of water a day or half your body weight in ounces. At first, that much water seems daunting (won’t I have to pee all day?). Give your body several days to adjust, and it won’t seem like such a chore. Your skin and digestive system will thank you.
Personally, I carry a gallon sized jug (Hydrojug is my go-to). Not only does it keep me accountable for how much I’ve had to drink, but it’s on hand throughout the day, without having to constantly re-fill something small.
Plan your exercise
It’s pretty typical that we drag ourselves to the gym Monday through Friday and then cut loose on the weekends to rest and relax. But weekdays are often the most tiring and the busiest. Switch up your gym routine to give yourself several weekdays off, and go on the weekend instead. There’s more time flexibility, and you’ll get the benefit of a less busy gym without fighting for equipment or a treadmill. During the week, you’ll feel less pressure to make it to the gym at the end of a busy day, because you’ve planned differently! You might even find yourself more relaxed and rejuvenated by some quality, weekend gym time.
Be a treater, not a cheater
I hate calling delicious food “cheat meals.” Since when is a tasty drink or ice cream cone such a terrible thing? Rather than calling every yummy food I put in my mouth a “cheat,” I prefer to call them a “treat.” With a consistently healthy lifestyle, a few treats here and there is not going to make or break your journey to a fit and healthy body. In fact, it’s good to treat yourself. Too much restriction or anxiety over food is likely to end in food guilt or binging. Snacking on a piece of chocolate, celebrating a birthday, and having a margarita on a Friday night with the girls is all a part of self-care. Finding the balance of healthy food and treats will result in a more long-term commitment, rather than yo-yo dieting.
Creating a healthy lifestyle that feels doable is accomplished by a collection of habits that set you on a path to feeling confident in your body. Your routine does not have to be extreme or overwhelming to see and feel results. Life is pulling us in every direction. The solution is to build in time for self-care, so we feel better in our bodies and our minds. Incorporate these healthy habits, and you will feel empowered by how simple, daily routines can make fitness a regular part of your lifestyle.
It is essential for young women to be more discerning and critical about the kinds of media we engage with and to recognize the kinds of toxic messages we are passively bombarded with every day. Remember when you were a kid and mom would say you were not allowed to watch certain movies? She would say it was because you were not old enough to watch such a scary/violent/inappropriate/(fill in the blank) movie, and that you had to wait until you were older.
Then one day you were free! Somewhere between age 13 and 18, the world of entertainment was your oyster! In retrospect, your fragile, malleable, pre-pubescent brain was not mature enough to engage with certain content. But as you got older and wised up the assumption became that you were mature and responsible enough to watch scary movies without having to lose a week’s sleep, or you could watch a TV show with sexual content and not be traumatized.
As you got older and wised up the assumption became that you were mature and responsible enough to watch scary movies without having to lose a week’s sleep.
Yet as we have grown up how often do we ask ourselves whether the media we engage with is toxic to us? The assumption is that we are mature and responsible enough to make good choices about what we listen to, read and watch, and yet most adults rarely question their own media engagement or call into discussion its toxicity.
The reality is that even though we are supposedly educated, mature adults who can discern what is good for us and what is toxic, we rarely do it. We often put ourselves in a position of passive consumers of media rather than active ones. All too often we allow ourselves to succumb to the mind-numbing, almost comatose state of turning our brains off and passively absorbing the subliminal messaging all around. How often do we stop and ask ourselves what the messages are in the songs we listen to and the TV shows we watch? And how often do we ask whether they are uplifting, truthful, and/or helpful to us?
All too often we allow ourselves to succumb to the mind-numbing, almost comatose state of turning our brains off and passively absorbing the subliminal messaging all around.
When asked, most people are quick to admit that the “media” in general is “bad” for us. We are constantly coming into contact with media that we already recognize as negative such as “Fake News” and advertising that over-sexualizes and objectifies women. Moreover, we know that social media has a correlation to depression and that most rap songs have horrible messages, and yet when do we actually say, “this is bad for me” and turn it off?
So what types of media should we start analyzing more deeply? What kinds of messages are being perpetuated? There is a huge difference between screening out messages we KNOW are bad for us, and toxic messages that are disguised as empowering, positive messages.
There is a huge difference between screening out messages we KNOW are bad for us, and toxic messages that are disguised as empowering, positive messages.
How often do we actually analyze the lyrics of our favorite jams as we sing along on our way to work? While we are aware that most rap music is misogynist and objectifying to women, most of our other favorite pop songs carry similar messages of over-sexualizing women, promoting promiscuity, romanticizing alcoholism, condoning violence against women, and worshiping of materialism and consumerism.
While most of us are somewhat aware of these messages, we usually write them off without examining how much influence they carry over us and whether these are positive influences in our self-image, relationships, or view on money. For example, we are often unaware of how a song about women using men for money can affect how women are portrayed and how they act towards men. Or how a song glamorizing a breakup can influence our dating habits.
We are often unaware of how a song about women using men for money can affect how women are portrayed and how they act towards men.
Most mainstream women’s magazines pose as “feminist” and “pro-women,” yet they are more complicit than we realize in keeping us comatose, dissatisfied masses eager to pull out our purses and pursue hedonistic pleasure in the name of empowerment.
Many popular women’s magazines perpetuate the idea that self-care can be achieved through consumerism as if a face mask will solve all your problems. Selfish, pleasure-seeking, consumerist behavior has been repackaged and sold to millions of women as “self-care” and “empowerment.”
Most magazines also communicate to women that promiscuity, pleasure-seeking, hedonistic behavior is fun and empowering, although it is actually very damaging mentally and emotionally to most women. If we take a look at the root of these sorts of messages, it makes sense that the media would want to keep women in a perpetual state of dissatisfaction, continually seeking out novel pleasures and material gratification. It is good for business!
Most magazines also communicate to women that promiscuity, pleasure-seeking, hedonistic behavior is fun and empowering, although it is actually very damaging mentally and emotionally to most women.
Most of us have gotten pretty lax with the types of TV/movies we watch, always self-assured that our adult brains are not influenced by any amount of cursing, sex, or violence we may see on TV. Yet, what if those should not be our foremost worries? Violence and cursing have little to no impact on most women; however, things like the way men and women are portrayed on TV/movies are potent indicators of female behavior and attitudes in real life. Most women fail to recognize the way relationships are shown in TV/movies and the effect they might have on how we view real relationships.
Violence and cursing have little to no impact on most women; however, things like the way men and women are portrayed on TV/movies are potent indicators of female behavior and attitudes in real life.
For example, most TV/movies positively portray promiscuity and hooking up as glamorous, fun, sexy, exciting and empowering with very little reveal of the emotional or mental consequences of casual sex. Likewise, the media often shows a very negative portrayal of married life, as boring and soul-sucking with tropes such as the nagging wife, the lazy husband, weight gain, obnoxious children and lackluster (if any) sex lives. Ultimately, marriage is shown as the death of romance, while sex without commitment is fun and empowering.
On the other end of the spectrum, movies and TV can also show romance in very idealistic terms that can also put wildly high expectations on dating and romance. We see images of firework first kisses and men as knights in shining armor there to rescue women from the misery of single life, and we become bitter when our real relationships don’t unfold quite like The Notebook or Titanic.
So what? Should I move to a cabin in the woods?
The most important step in getting out from under the media’s iron grip is first to recognize that every message the media sends is mostly about keeping us anxious, dissatisfied, unhappy, and in a continual state of seeking instant gratification, novelty, and pleasure to assuage our “unhappiness.” As soon as we recognize that, we can break free of the shackles.
But the work does not end there. We need to focus on no longer being passively entertained, and instead stay alert and discerning to messages. It is imperative that we bring into question what said messages are and how they are influencing us. Are they making us happier? Is it only for short bursts of time? Or are they making us feel more miserable in the long run?
Recognize that every message the media sends is mostly about keeping us anxious, dissatisfied, unhappy, and in a continual state of seeking instant gratification, novelty, and pleasure to assuage our “unhappiness.”
It is important that we question and dissect the influx of messages around us
The media has long believed that women were more influenced by pathos-based advertising due to our emotional nature and often uses that against women. This is why I encourage women especially to embrace empowerment not through consumerism and pleasure-seeking(ultimately fool-hardy pursuits), but through discernment and pursuing wisdom.
Wisdom in the face of an avalanche of toxic, conflicting messages is the most empowering tool you can gain. True female empowerment comes from strong values rooted in truth and justice and discernment.
While you can find just about any beauty product there is on Amazon, someone smart at the company decided that they weren’t going to stop at delivering other beauty products to their customers, but that they were going to produce their own, from listening to what their beauty customers are wanting!
The packaging is beautiful and clean – matte in green tones with a simple font, reminiscent of Glossier’s. The product is just as photogenic as you’ll hopefully be after using it! But once you’re done, you can recycle it, which is great to know as well, especially since a lot of skincare products come in fancy containers that can’t be recycled in their entirety.
The packaging is beautiful and clean – matte in green tones with a simple font, reminiscent of Glossier’s. The product is just as photogenic as you’ll hopefully be after using it!
And if you think that “it’s what’s inside that counts,” and you’re totally right, it seems that Belei (the name of the Amazon’s skincare line) has that going well for them too! Everything in the 12-item line is free of fragrances, parabens, sulfates, and phthalates, and is natural! It has also been tested by dermatologists, but not on animals! Another bonus is that the products are affordable, all ranging from $9-40, which is a great value!
Everything in the 12-item line is free of fragrances, parabens, sulfates, and phthalates, and is natural!
You can choose to build a whole regimen if you’re looking for one (and the “subscribe and save” option seems smart – no more worrying about running out and using your “B team” products while you wait for your prime delivery), or you can pick specific products to solve targeted skin issues you may have. When asked by my editor which products I want to try, the answer is of course “all of them,” but there are a few that excite me more than the rest!
One is actually their lowest-priced item, which is their Oil-free Micellar Facial Cleansing Wipes.
As a makeup artist, I always start skin prep on my clients with a wipe, so trying new ones is a must for me! I also like to keep a package of wipes by my bedside for nights I feel too tired to wash my face. They say that sleeping with makeup on ages you seven times faster than washing your face, so having these by my bedside would give me no excuse!
Another one that really intrigues me is their moisturizer, which has an SPF of 50! What I love about the SPF is that it is a chemical sunscreen. The reason this is a benefit is that the metal sunscreens (so sunscreens with an active ingredient like zinc) are what causes people to have white faces in photos where a flash is used – it’s actually the metal in the sunscreen reflecting the light back!
Yet another fantastic option is the Dark Spot Solution.
I like that it doesn’t have hydroquinone, which is actually toxic! So if you haven’t been using a moisturizer that has an SPF of 50 like Belei’s, you can start making up for it and get rid of those dark spots/hyperpigmentation using natural ingredients!
The final product I’d love to try is the Charcoal Balancing mask.
Charcoal absorbs oil and sucks out impurities, and hyaluronic acid is in it to help your skin retain the good moisture – hence the “balancing” part of the title! Amazon has long been an inspiration for me business-wise, and now they’ve upped the ante with a skincare line I can’t wait to try. I wonder what they’ll come up with next!
KUALA LUMPUR: In an unprecedented move, Yang di-Pertuan Agong Al-Sultan Abdullah Ri’ayatuddin Al-Mustafa Billah Shah will conduct a one-to-one interview of all MPs today and tomorrow at Istana Negara, the palace announced today.
Comptroller of the Royal Household for Istana Negara Datuk Ahmad Fadil Shamsuddin said His Majesty will interview each MP for two to three minutes.
The palace announcement comes in the wake of political developments amid talk that there will be a realignment of the ruling coalition of parties.
Chief Secretary to the Government Datuk Seri Mohd Zuki Ali will be present at the interviews, Ahmad Fadil said at a special press conference at the palace.
He said the interviews will begin at 2.30 pm today with the first batch of 90 MPs.
“The session will continue tomorrow with the rest of the lawmakers,” he said. – Bernama
— MORE TO COME —
KUCHING: The Public Works Department Sarawak (JKR Sarawak) has refuted the claims made by former Pujut state assemblyman Dr Ting Tiong Choon that 32 schools dilapidated schools in Sarawak have been upgraded.
JKR said in a press statement that under the RM100 million package from the Ministry of Education (MoE), only 12 schools have been completed, while another 18 are due for completion by April 2020 and the remaining two have been tendered out on Feb 15.
The repair works on the 32 dilapidated schools in Sarawak is implemented by JKR Sarawak with JKR Malaysia as technical advisor.
“The 12 schools are already completed with another 18 schools due to complete by April 2020 while the last two schools have been tendered on 15 February 2020.
“Implementation of the two schools was delayed because of site constraints,” said the press statement.
JKR Sarawak said this in responding to former Pujut state assemblyman Dr Ting Tiong Choon’s post on his Facebook page with regard to the implementation of dilapidated schools in Sarawak.
Meanwhile, Dr Ting also mentioned that the RM350 million package for dilapidated school was allocated under the purview of JKR Sarawak, as agreed by the Pakatan Harapan (PH) federal government.
With this package he said, only 37 schools are listed for upgrading with an average cost, under JKR Sarawak’s instruction, at about RM9.46 million per school.
To this JKR Sarawak said: “The RM350 million program is of conventional or IBS hybrid construction system and the scope of works include construction of administrative blocks, classroom blocks, hostels, toilets, dining halls, science room, resource room, bilik khas and quarters.
“The average cost per square metre is on the same competitive level as the RM100 million program; i.e. RM1,744 per square metre,” said the statement.
Ting also suggested that assuming the delay, Chief Minister Datuk Patinggi Abang Johari Tun Openg should ask JKR Sarawak to ascertain the reason for the delay.
“JKR Sarawak has already briefed the chief minister on the status of the implementation of the RM350 million dilapidated school program in Sarawak,” said the press statement.
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SAN FRANCISCO (KRON) – Verizon is the latest big tech company to withdraw from the RSA Conference 2020 in San Francisco due to coronavirus-related concerns, according to officials.
RSA also said that AT&T and International Business Machines Corp. (IBM) will not participate in the conference.
That leaves the total number of companies that have withdrawn from the conference at 14.
That number includes 6 companies from China, 7 from the United States, and one from Canada.
In a statement, San Francisco Mayor London Breed said more than 40,000 conference attendees are expected to be in San Francisco conference, and that the city has been “working with global, federal, and state health agencies to monitor the virus in order to protect residents, businesses and visitors.”
Mayor Breed added that the risk of contracting coronavirus in San Francisco is “low, as the virus is not circulating within our community.”
In addition to following the CDC’s recommendations like frequent hand washing and staying away from those who are sick, officials are reminding conference attendees that the conference venue – the Moscone Center – is following recommendations regarding the use of cleaning disinfectants effective against the virus and CDC health screenings for qualified travelers who are arriving from international destinations at SFO.
Separately, Facebook said it would not be participating the annual Game Developers Conference being held in the city due to the coronavirus outbreak.
The RSA Conference is scheduled for Feb. 24 to 28 at the Moscone Center in San Francisco while the Game Developers Conference is scheduled for March 16 to 20.
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KUALA LUMPUR: Yang di-Pertuan Agong Al-Sultan Abdullah Ri’ayatuddin Al-Mustafa Billah Shah today presented the instrument of appointment to the new Chief Judge of Sabah and Sarawak Datuk Abang Iskandar Abang Hashim at Istana Negara here.
His appointment, effective today, is to replace Tan Sri David Wong Dak Wah who retired on Feb 20.
The ceremony, which took place at Bilik Singgahsana Kecil (Small Throne Room) was also attended by Chief Justice Tan Sri Tengku Maimun Tuan Mat and Attorney General Tan Sri Tommy Thomas.
Abang Iskandar, 61, who hails from Sibu, Sarawak is formerly Federal Court judge and has held various positions in the judiciary such as Appeal Court Judge for five years since 2013.
He started his legal career in 1983 as a magistrate at the Miri Magistrate’s Court in Sarawak. – Bernama
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